The stories of lust and traps
Posted on January 8, 2008 | 2,121 views
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She was a student of a medical school, a lady from a respectable family with a feudal background from interior of Sindh. Once she told me that when she got admitted, it was a break from the convention and his father had taken the risk of sending some female member of family for higher education. Her admission was equally important for her sisters too since it was for the first time that some female from their family was on route to excellence in studies. Everything was going well and everybody was happy with it but problem started in her third year when she got trapped in vicious circle of people who exploited her sexually. I can still recall her sobbing and telling me that she is not able to get out of this trap when many strong persons both in faculty and outside were around and wanted to use her body to satisfy their lust. This proved as the last nail in the coffin though the issue is hidden from her parents but she no more want any of her sisters to face the same fate.
This is not the only story; one can find many such characters who are suffering silently and facing every day of their life with a traumatizing experience. Other such incidence was of another lady who used to visit her professor and she got trapped some way. Now he is not ready to marry her and according to her, she is no more than a tool in hands of this organized mafia who has specialized in trade of trapping the innocent females with expert techniques. Though they are getting money for what they use to do but money is not something they wanted. They were in search of love and were trapped instead.
This list does not end here; there are numerous others who have got their tales of suffering to tell but they are voiceless. These stories of innocence and anguish use to bury with them in their graves and they have accepted it that way. In a society, where, talking about sexual abuse is a taboo, what else could be expected, except shunning their voice?
How unfortunate it is for those poor souls who are facing this fate? When Tahimna Durrani wrote ‘My feudal Lord’, it was declared an icon of freedom of women, but what about all those whose voices are unheard? Though, Domestic violence against women is a great problem but issues related to sexual exploitation are equally important and need consideration. They need to be dealt on equal footing with domestic violence and other such matters but no one is there to raise the voice. Who is responsible for all this? I think we all are responsible being silent observers. The need of the hour is to listen to those sobs and at least say no to all this in our own spheres. Let’s get to it before its too late!
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These are the miracles of co-education and a mixed working environment.
Solution to the problem is simple but difficult to implement rather it’s difficult to accept by many of us. Hijab and veil are not the solutions – set up separate working domains.
The problem here lies in the belief many men carry in their ill developed minds in Pakistan that anyone who is stepping out of their house to gain an education or work somewhere are fair game. It is quite disgusting as Muslims that we tend to take advantages of things like this to meet our own perverted goals. An organization should be formed which deal specifically with sexual harassment in the workplace as well as in colleges etc.
Btw ty Farrukh for bringing this up.
Farrukh did you do something for the traumatized girl who told you her ordeal?
@Sagar Unnar:
Not yet brother, this least is I can do that I have written her story to let the world know her ordeal!
@Faisal.k:
I agree with you!
reading this story touches emotions. there are many stories like this in which poor girs are trapped .
But i think, this is not whole truth. in university setting except at places where girls may be coerced into this heinous act, girls should bear some brunt of responsity.
they must be at a continous guard over themselves.
those girls and boys who join universities are not as backward in terms of mentality as this picture depicts… they take all their decisions and they bear responsibility for this.
a girl is made to yield to desires of a boy when he promises to marry her. and girls fully realising implications that this is a chance, they give it try and give access to a boy and in result they are trapped, then these same girls incite emotions.
so i think girls are equally involved in atleast some cases.
I will only say that, no one can even dare to exploit anyone or is able to exploit anyone unless he see the potential of being exploited. If you study these types of cases in detail you will see that, that kind of situations only emerges when girls show willingness and prove the freehand rather in the hope of long-term relation or willingness. We can also have examples of many females around us who are coming out of their homes to work/study and no one even dare or think of exploiting them while you can also have examples from you surrounding of those who are trapped even if they are in close eye or have less excess to the outside world. In Islam we all have been provided with the absolute code of conduct for both men and women and i think only those are exploited who cross or don’t follow that code of conduct provided by Allah Almighty, hence there may be exceptions but these are very few in numbers and these are the tests from God.
dr. versatile and bro. Asif Ali Panhwer- ditto!
May Allah protect us and guard us.